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Some people are suffering from excessive sexual desires and no matter what they do they are not able to get over it. We hope, InshaAllah that this article would be of some help to everyone.

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Fasting is a shield,” i.e., a protection. Narrated by al-Bukhari (7492).

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) also said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it should marry, and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.”

Narrated by al-Bukhari (5065) and Muslim (1400).

The prophetic advice to the one affected is simple-fasting. The benefits of fasting are well known. It, not a secret that fasting weakens the desire and reduces it. One can achieve the desired result only when one pursues the matter wholeheartedly, that is even after breaking the fast one must not return to the ways that might strengthen the desires.

Shut out all the means that lead one to dwell on their desires.

Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

What we learn from this hadeeth is that fasting suppresses sexual desire.

Sometimes, however, the problem may get greater as fasting increases the heat in the body and this stirs up desire.

But that only occurs in the beginning, then when one persists in fasting and gets used to it, that settles down.

A person who is willing to follow this course must understand that he must be patient with the remedy and bear its bitterness, and strive to overcome nafs all the way.

Refrain from the secret habit of masturbation and watching porn. It is not the solution to the problem. It is a disease it self. How can something that itself causes harm bring healing? Your goal is to be chaste and cast away evil from your life. You cannot substitute one evil from another in hope that you will get over one of them. Rather, a person will fall in all evils and it will become more difficult to come out.

Lower your gaze. Our eyes are the reflection of our hearts. Do not look at the haraam things. Do not look at someone unnecessarily.

Stop interaction with opposite gender except in cases where required.

keep yourself chaste by means of marriage at the earliest possible opportunity. You do not have to be restricted by traditional social requirements; rather you should try to reduce these restrictions as much as possible and hasten to marry someone who will keep you chaste.

Do not allow yourself any free time, because if you do not keep your nafs busy with the truth, it will keep you busy with falsehood.

Repent your past sins and strive against your nafs in order to do so.

Turn to Allah and ask for His guidance. Seek help in patience and prayer.

Ask Allah to make it easy for you.

Be consistent in your prayers, keep yourself in state of purity always and increase in your nawfil prayers.

Read Quran regularly.

Always bear in mind that Allah is watching you and that He is Most Noble and Generous, the One Who conceals sins, may He be glorified. So beware of showing audacity in committing sin, lest Allah then expose your sins

Be in a good company. Strive to find friends that are religiously committed.

Try to exercise regularly and spend time in useful pursuits such as reading.

We ask Allah to guide each and every one of us and keep us away from evil, immorality and corruption.

And Allah knows best.