BASHFULNESS: AN ASSET OF THE RIGHTEOUS WIFE

All praise be to Allah.

One of the assets of believing women is that they are bashful. Being bashful protects her honour, dignity and status. All righteous women(especially wives) are bashful in everything else - their clothing, their movement, their speech, their dealings and their manners.

A bashful believing woman is more adherent to the Islamic way of dressing. She follows guidelines clearly and does not disobey it. She knows her value and how she is supposed to dress and behave.

Allah, The Almighty, Says:

• {and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests} [Quran 24:31]

• {O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused.} [Quran 33:59]

• {and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance} [Quran 33:33]

A righteous woman does not appear to be charming to non-mahram, she does not display her beauty in order to attract attention. What would she then keep special for her husband? The Prophet said: “Bashfulness and faith are inseparable; if one of them is missing, the other will be missing as well.” The woman who exposes her beauty is not bashful as she does not have this essential characteristic of Islam. The Prophet said: “Every religion has distinctive morals and bashfulness is the distinctive moral in Islam.” Moreover, the bashfulness of the believing woman makes her lower her gaze. Allah, The Almighty, Says: {And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof.} [Quran 24:31]

The righteous believing woman also knows what Allah, The Almighty, says through the words of the Prophet: “The [forbidden] gaze is one of the poisonous darts of Iblees [Satan]. The one who avoids it out of fear of Me will be granted such faith that he feels its sweetness in his heart.”

Giving free reins to the gaze brings nothing but the sickness of heart and the wrath of Allah azawajal as the forbidden gaze id the door to the sin, a seed for the evil to grow. The righteous woman does not underestimate this. The Prophet said to Umm Salamah and Maymoonah :“Are you blind? Do you not see him?” when they were looking at ‘Abdullaah ibn Umm Maktoom, who was a blind man.

The bashfulness of the righteous woman is also exhibited in the way she speaks. Allah, The Almighty, Says (what means): {Then do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet.} [Quran 33:32]

Which means a believing Muslim woman knows the limits of getting engaged with non-mahram men and women alike. She does not sound sweet intentionally to attract attention. However this certainly does not mean that a righteous woman has to misbehave with fellow human beings.

The bashfulness of the believing woman is clear in her behaviour, movement and way of walking. Thus, every Muslim woman should be an embodiment of bashfulness. The best example of bashfulness is that of the two girls who met Moosa (Moses) .

Their bashfulness prevented them from mixing with men at the well of Madyan. They said (what means): {“We do not water until the shepherds dispatch [their flocks.]”} [Quran 28:23] This is the example of the righteous woman who stays at home, and if she leaves it for a dire necessity, then she does so while being bashful.

And Allah knows best.

May He guide us all.

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